WHAT OUR KIDS WANT FROM US…

Written By Applied Techniques Training
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October is National Children’s Month. My 3-year-old Granddaughter was trying out a new piece of playground equipment at the local park. I could see by her face that she was a little scared that she might fall off, so I offered her my hand and quietly encouraged her to hold onto the handle. She said, “Thanks Grandme, I know that you’ll always keep me safe.” 

WE ALL KNOW WHAT WE WANT OUR KIDS TO DO….

  • STOP doing what we don’t want them to do; 

  • START doing what we ask them to do; 

  • ACT like they belong to a “normal” family!  

BUT, WHAT DO OUR KIDS WANT FROM US? 

FIRSTLY, OUR KIDS WANT TO FEEL SAFE.

Uncertainty causes anxiety which makes kids feel unsafe. If kids don’t have some form of structure and boundaries in their lives, they create their own. These boundaries can often be much tougher on them as they don’t have the ability to plan and predict outcomes in certain situations, causing them to become worried. The lack of family expectations, both physically and emotionally, makes a child feel unsafe as they don’t know what they are allowed to do or when they need to stop. 

SECONDLY, OUR KIDS WANT TO FEEL LIKE WE (KIND OF) KNOW WHAT WE ARE DOING.

Kids also feel safe if there are expectations of how our family runs. Knowing what we are doing as parents might include having:

  • Ways our family speaks to each other; 

  • Ways we care for ourselves and each other; 

  • Ways we help each other; and 

  • Ways each family member is responsible for family and personal things. 

THIRDLY, OUR KIDS WANT TO KNOW THAT WE CARE ABOUT THEM AND THEIR SAFETY.

Kids need to know that our family’s relationship is strong so that they feel safe. Having a secure relationship means:

  • Expectations and working out a set of family rules; 

  • Having structure and routine within a family; and 

  • Putting into place sensible consequences without blame or shame. 

With these 3 things in place, our kids will know the family’s limits and what will happen if they are stepping outside these limits. Letting them know in a firm but a warm way that they are getting close to that physical or emotional line so they can pull back, gives our kids the certainty they need and encourages self-regulation. 

If you are ready to give your kids what they really need register for the BASIC PARENTING – THE SIMPLY 1-2-3 WAY or join our LEARNABILY ONLINE MEETUP GROUP for parents and carers (PACS) / Grandmas and Pops (GAPS) and other family members. (SIMPLY 1-2-3 for Educators coming soon!)

Applied Techniques Training

About Sue Suchocki - Applied Techniques Training (2010).

Applied Techniques Training (ATT) delivers professional coaching, training, and consultation across digital governance, Body Corporate operations, human behaviour, emotional wellbeing, parent and carer support, education, and community services.

ATT is the developer and licensed training provider of the Applied Techniques Quick Response Digital Governance System — AT QRDGS, providing professional coaching to Body Corporate Committee Members, Resident Managers as Body Corporate Caretakers, and Strata Managers within a Scheme.

ATT also provides personal and professional training in human behaviour and emotion coaching, including evidence-based EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, Tapping, ADHD and ASD support, parent and carer behaviour support, face-to-face workshops, online workshops, and consultation for early childhood educators and community services.

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AT QRDGS creates one workflow across the Body Corporate Committee, Resident Manager or Body Corporate Caretaker, and Strata Manager. It supports clear reporting, recording, registering, contractor management, maintenance tracking, approvals, compliance processes, and communication between Owners, Contractors, Committee Members, Resident Managers, and Strata Managers.

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Services are available through individual consultations, workshops, online workshops, staff training, and in-house support for organisations, families, educators, carers, clients, and community service teams.

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