WORKPLACE BULLYING IS NOT ABOUT A DIFFERENCE OF OPINION BETWEEN TWO EQUALLY POWERED PARTIES.
While some decisions that happen in the workplace may sometimes seem unfair to us such as being transferred, disciplined, counselled or dismissed, it is not bullying if carried out in a transparent, reasonable, respectful and fair manner.
WORKPLACE BULLYING IS SYSTEMATIC.
Bullying is a target-focused campaign on the interpersonal well-being of an industry peer, employee, co-worker or junior member of the workplace. Bullying compromises the health, well-being and integrity of the target.
Bullying may occur if the perpetrator is feeling threatened, is only interested in their own personal gains, or is being verbally degraded, pressured or bullied themselves from another source to perform personally or as a team, or to reach unrealistic goals.
TARGETED WORKPLACE BULLYING IS A HEALTH, WORK AND SAFETY HAZARD
Bullying is not a form of active management. The Australian Human Rights Commission tells us that bullying behaviours in the workplace can have other implications within the law.
The bully may be out to destroy a person’s standing in the workplace and in doing so jeopardises relationships at work and at home; a person’s physical and mental health; and the career opportunities of the target. This may be seen as repeated hurtful remarks and harassment, exclusion from work matters, intimidation, giving a person pointless tasks, making work scheduling difficult for a person, or verbal/physical attacks on a person.
THE EFFECTS OF WORKPLACE BULLYING.
A person will be less confident in their ability at work, suffer from stress, panic attacks or depression. Bullying also affects life outside of the work environment. People who are bullied in the workplace will not want to go to work, they will find it hard to trust those around them, and their self-worth will suffer. The target may have physical signs of stress, including headaches, backache and sleep issues.
TAPPING OUT WORKPLACE BULLYING.
Emotional Freedom Techniques or Tapping helps the bully, bullied or a bystander to identify the core issue of the bullying behaviour by investigating the aspects around being bullied, bullying others or as a witness of bullying behaviours. “The time when……”
By identifying who was involved, where the bullying took place, what you saw/what you heard, what you thought, how you felt about the situation and where you hold these feelings in your body you can start the process of tapping to let go of the hurt caused by this behaviour.
CHANGING THE CULTURE
It is thought that the culture of the workplace needs to change. I would question if it has ever been OK or acceptable to hurt someone deliberately? Bullying is not a culture; it is discrimination.
DON'T BE A BY-STANDER; BE AN UP-STANDER.
To find out more about Bullying Behaviours and Emotional Freedom Techniques - Tapping go to www.appliedtechniques.net/book-sales-and-resources and download the first section of "The Emotions Behind Bullying Behaviours"
I LOVE OCTOBER!
There, I’ve said it😊 My jumpers are packed away, the spring cleaning is done, the jacarandas are in full bloom, the days are warming up and the evenings are a perfect time to spend outdoors with family and friends!
CELEBRATING NATIONAL WEEKS IN OCTOBER.
October is time to celebrate some amazing people during specific weeks that I am passionate about being held throughout the month to create awareness around children; ADHD and various other learning difficulties or hearing impairments; mental health issues; and finally celebrating state education (which I had the honour of coordinating the promotion of within the Coopers Plains district many years ago), but the one week that encircles all of these valued weeks in October is Carers Week.
WE ARE ALL CARERS.
We are all carers, whether it is in a paid role working with those requiring physical assistance or supporting those with mental health issues, learning or other special needs. You might be in a position as an unpaid person looking after the needs of family members and friends.
SELF CARE IS NECESSARY.
The most important person you care for is yourself! You are no good to anyone else if you are exhausted and run down. Selfish means - a lack of consideration for others. This word doesn’t describe the type of person who is taking the time to look after themselves so that they can better support others. It is time to be self-full.
5 WAYS OF BEING SELF-FULL
UNPACK YOUR STRESS BY LEARNING NEW SKILLS.
The Beyond All Limits on-line conference has something for everyone who is caring for or working with for someone with ADHD (information may cross into the area of ASD).
Throughout the month of October, you can register in up to 3 independent streams that will bring awareness, ideas and solutions right into your home or workplace.
You will also receive access to the information until February 2020! The streams include workshops for Parents and Carers as well as workshops for Teens and Adults; or Educators with a discount when you register for both streams.
Applied Techniques Training will be presenting mini-workshops on how to use Emotional Freedom Techniques – Tapping! within each of these areas. To find out how to be part of this fantastic online conference register here.
How much does a 3-year-old brain weigh?
A new born babies brain weighs 400g while an adult brain is 1.4 kg. Up until the 1960’s, it was thought that the brain only grew during childhood with the most growth being by the age of 3 when the brain weighs 1.1kg!
DOES THE BRAIN STOP GROWING?
It is true that in the early years, the brain does the most growing. We know now that the brain continues to change throughout adolescence and adulthood. As we learn new things, we can create and strengthen neural pathways and networks in the brain.
IS YOUR BRAIN LIKE A PIECE OF PLASTIC THAT KEEPS EXPANDING?
Neuro describes the nervous system in the brain. Plasticity might make us think of the brain as being “plastic”. The definition of plasticity is, "when something can be shaped into something else or “moulded” without it breaking". As we gain new experiences as adults, some connections are strengthened while others are eliminated.
WHAT CAN WE DO TO KEEP CHANGING OUR BRAIN?
1. Adequate sleep to reset your brain connections
3. Movement and exercise…..
HOW CAN APPLIED TECHNIQUES TRAINING PROGRAMS HELP WITH NEUROPLASTICITY?
Life-long learning is important for brain development, but if you have an interest in the topic, you are more likely to focus, which will enhance your neuroplasticity. Look at the ideas and solutions offered in ADHD/ASD – The Game Plan, SIMPLY 1-2-3 Behaviour Support 3 to 11-year-old for parents and carers or teachers and educators and SURVIVING YOUR ADOLESCENTS workshops.
Stress diminishes neuroplasticity. Emotional Freedom Techniques is a gentle, non-invasive technique to identify where your stress is coming. EFT Tapping! workshops help you to change old patterns by using somatic stimulation by tapping on “acupressure” points on the face and upper body while saying exactly how you are feeling. It’s hard to feel bad when you are feeling good!
So, as adults, life-long learning helps us to change our brains to adapt to the changing environment. These changes happen whether we want it to or not, so it is essential to find things that keep you motivated and alert to get the most out of your brain!
For information on Applied Techniques Training’s programs visit our website....
THOUGHT FIELD THERAPY
I want to take you on a journey that started with a technique called Thought Field Therapy. TFT was developed by Psychologist, Dr Roger Callahan over 30 years ago. TFT was based on applied kinesiology and physics, which was then aligned with the Chinese philosophy of Chi by combining tapping with two fingers on certain parts of the body.
DEVELOPMENT OF EFT
Gary Craig, a student of Roger Callahan's, modified these techniques to develop what is known today as Emotional Freedom Techniques, EFT or simply as "Tapping". This technique was introduced in 1995 after Gary Craig very generously shared it with the public. I first trained in EFT through Pamela O'Leary - Guided Solutions and completed studies as a student of Gary Craig Level I to IV in 2009.
SPREADING OF EFT
Elements of EFT have been picked up and used forming hybrids of the technique which people like to refer to as their own modality. Clinical EFT is used by Dr Dawson Church - EFT Universe. I would suggest that even the purest EFT practitioner has their own twist or uses EFT in conjunction with other modalities.
THE EXCITEMENT AROUND EFT
The most exciting news around EFT is the evidence-based research that had come through the USA including papers by Dr Dawson Church - EFT Universe. Now, our very own Australian research professor Dr Peta Stapleton from Bond University is producing world-renowned research in the area of EFT. Dr Peta has specialised in the field of eating disorders and well as other trauma. (https://works.bepress.com/peta_stapleton/). This research has seen EFT Tapping more widely accepted throughout the medical and allied health professions and used more by complementary therapy practitioners. I met Dr Peta Stapleton in 2016 and completed my EFT Universe Clinical EFT Practitioner Certification in 2018 with Dr Peta Stapleton as my mentor.
WHO CAN USE EFT?
EFT can be used with children, teens and adults to help them find their biggest problem, work out who this problem is with and what happened to cause the problem. Together, we work out a number between 0 and 10 to decide how bad the problem really is and acknowledge these feelings while tapping on the side of hand point.
HOW DOES EFT WORK?
We then complete a tapping round on 4 (kids) to 8 (adults) points on the face and upper body while using words or short phrases about the problem, the person involved and the cause of the problem to help lessen the emotions around the problem.
HOW DO WE KNOW IF EFT WORKED?
We test the number between 0 and 10 after each tapping round. As the numbers get lower or closer to 0, we know that EFT is working for you. EFT can work for anyone who is willing to learn and use it correctly. An EFT practitioner may be required if the issue is too difficult to handle.
Applied Techniques Training is affiliated with Peta Stapleton's "Tapping in the Classroom" online training course.
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I want you to take a walk in the rain with me. Under your umbrella, are you protecting yourself as a person who is a bully, being bullied or a bystander?
A large number of emotions can be put into 7 categories of “umbrella” emotions.
A word about negative emotions and anger:
We are taught that negative emotions are not acceptable. We are told that it is only OK to show positive emotions, so we are not well practiced in dealing with unpleasant emotions or handling difficult situations. Try pushing a beach ball down into a full tub of water. What happens to it? That's right, it bounces back and hits you in the face. This is what happens when we try to push our negative emotions away or "sweep" them under the carpet.
A lot of people go straight to the emotion of anger because that don’t know what to name how they are really feeling. They may actually be disappointed, frustrated or perhaps feeling socially awkward.
There are some people, for example, people with ADHD or ASD or social anxieties, who have difficulty reading social cues and don’t know how to interact well with others. This can look like behavioural issues such as pushing in or taking over or controlling the situation which could be seen as bullying behaviour. It is the frustration of not fitting in which leads to anger and maybe aggressive or bullying behaviour.
What pressures are we putting on others, or what expectations do they have on themselves? What causes a person to feel as though they don’t have any control? Why do they feel that they need to regain control through inappropriate social behaviour?
Be aware of where these pressures are coming from and explore techniques to reduce the amount of daily stress. Learn to love and accept yourself or other's just the way they are so that being "enough" is enough.
Relaxation, Meditation and Emotional Freedom Techniques Tapping! are all ways to lessen anxiety and stress and bring balance and clarity back into a person’s life.
With Emotional Freedom Techniques Tapping! you can help identify the problem by asking three easy questions.
Identifying the problem:
Once you identify the problem and break it down, it is much easier to deal with which will again bring happiness, peace and fun back into your life.
If you would like to know more about managing the stress of bullying behaviour and learn Tapping with Kids, join me at the Beyond the Maze Online Summit October 2019. For more information click and save this link: https://summit.beyondthemaze.com.au/?pa=F7DA499E5C
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I want you to take a BIG stretch. Go on, feels good hey. Stretching is an action we use to support a reaction. Do you agree that stretching is good for everyone’s physical wellbeing? Yes, of course, it keeps our muscles flexible, strong and healthy. So, what happens to us when it comes to caring for emotional wellbeing. Why are we so scared of making flexible decisions that suits the behaviour? Why aren’t we willing to use some “give and take” to manage a child’s meltdown?
Our first question should be, “What is the emotion behind this behaviour” or what causes a meltdown? While choices are important for a child’s development, children become anxious when there is uncertainty. Although children require some structure and limited choices to help them get through the day, too many choices and a child becomes overwhelmed.
Secondly, we need to distinguish whether this is an emotional meltdown that requires soft boundaries like chilling out, jumping on the trampoline or having a sip of water. If the child is hurting someone or themselves or breaking something, it is a behavioural issue that requires firm boundaries and action which includes a pre-arranged, non-threatening consequence or outcome.
Taking the time to work out the emotions behind a meltdown or the causes of a meltdown allows us to be flexible in the way you handle the situation, strengthening and keeping our relationships with our child healthy.
Triggers and causes of a meltdown to be aware of:
To spot the difference between an emotional meltdown and a behavioural issue, take the time to consider:
• What has changed in their environment? Are they transitioning from home to school or starting at a new childcare centre?
• Which sensors are being overloaded? Are there unexpected sounds, bright lights, new smells?
• What stressors are coming from outside sources? Is there a new baby in the house, Grandma visiting or a relief staff member?
• How is the child feeling today and have they had adequate sleep or rest?
• How are you feeling today? Are you caring for yourself so you can be there for others?
Other things to consider:
Or, is the child just not getting their own way and throwing a tantrum or being disrespectful? Do they have social or emotional sensitivities associated ADHD, ASD or anxiety that causes them not to understand the intensity of their reactions?
How to stop a meltdown:
A meltdown isn’t always a challenging behaviour; it can be a sensory reaction. It is important to step in before the meltdown gets into full swing. A couple of ideas is to use gentle love with soft boundaries, allowing for some relaxation space, techniques like EFT- Tapping! and most importantly, time for the meltdown to pass.
Have a look at how EFT- Tapping! can help handle emotional meltdowns.
I am proud to announce that I am now the Grandma of a beautiful baby girl.
Personally, it will be interesting to follow whether the genetics / epigenetics that my daughter and I share continue on. I am grateful that through medical, psychological and allied health breakthroughs, evidence based research, increased understanding and practical knowledge that both my adult daughter and baby granddaughter will have the supports required to live the life they deserve and to continue to reach their full potential.
Professional, I am excited to continue to share information on ADHD/ASD, anxiety, depression including social and emotional sensitives with you through group presentations and workshops; and one on one consultations (EFT only).
will be taking a break from scheduled programs but I am available for all in-house Professional Development or Personal Development for consumers and clients programs; or individual Emotion Freedom Techniques (Tapping) private consultations at your service centre (Brisbane), Sunnybank, or via skype.
Sue Suchocki - Facilitator of: ADHD / ASD -